Monday, July 12, 2010

Give Me New Wind

We mostly do not change even if we want to. This is so well known in the healing trades that policy is made on that opinion. Most of us most of the time end up doing the same old no matter what. We recognize each other after years not only because we so often look like ourselves but we act that way too.

There are other outcomes, other people, however, people who can and do change. First obvious clue - actors can successfully play their body and character as a tool for a role. They not only gain and lose weight at will but they change the way they emote, they way they speak, the way they use their bodies to communicate, knowing what they do as they change and what they do when they have changed. It can be disconcerting if you ever have the chance to know one of these people because they can after a time slip in and out of roles really easily. Con men do this too, so it comes as no surprise that this might be spooky to some folk.

Under the right circumstance many of us may be able to make basic changes if we are given the right push, the right pressure. AA has a slightly better than 20% rate of changing drunks into sober alcoholics. Nobody has a better record. The road is rocky too. Most get drunk after starting in AA at least once, some many times. This is a remark to the seriousness of compulsion and addiction, but it is also a remark to the simple truth that most of us just don't change even when we recognize a dire need.

The AA solution involves a Higher Power. This is a recognition that we need power we don't have in order to change and as well a place to stand outside ourselves to wield that power. That is what makes the difference, a power we don't have within us until we open to it, and as well a new place to stand in order to use it.

Give Me New Wind

The divide between
us, the gap that shows sometimes
when you dive into
the joys that raise you -
you swing them like your children
before my gray shadow,
this gap is my call
to God to change my old shape
and give me new wind.

June 12, 2009 12:29 PM


  1. Yep, i was never good at acting either :) I recgonize that in myself, that unability to change, for me it comes down to accepting and loving myself the way i am.
    Darn, i got some things though...
    Just the other day i ran into an old friend, who i had not seen for 5 years, guess what, she had not changed :) which suprised me. Lucky she is delightful.

  2. "you swing them like your children
    before my grey shadow"

    What a wonderful image. I want to say something more, but I'm not sure what it is.

  3. A & K, I think we come in all shapes and sizes, every way you can think of that. If this is a school, then it is a one room school house with all the grades represented and we sit all tangled together. The guy right next to you might be several levels below or above, but the love light remains the same. So does the ultimate goal and while there are so many trails, they all tend in the same direction.

    I suspect that older souls set loose in their bodies, but I bet there are countless exceptions to any rule like that.

  4. That seems enough to me, Rachel, to highlight those lines. Now if I can only repeat that serendipity of word choice more often.


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